... that losing my temper always ends up hurting me just as much as the person whom I made the target of my wrath and fury. Which I suppose is rather fitting in a way and a good example of karma.
In the past two weeks, I’ve blown up at both a relative and a good friend. In retrospect, both temper tantrums were avoidable and completely unnecessary. I’ve apologized to both, but really, I don’t feel much better. I doubt they do either.
As my mother would likely say “I’ve resolved to change my thinking on this...I’ll put together some affirmations" (love The Mom). From what I’ve gleaned from that wonderful all-knowing source (the Internet, natch), I’ve put together the following affirmations which I resolve to repeat in my head whenever I feel The Rage:
1. Call a time out with myself whenever I feel my temper building.
2. Try deep breathing - breathe in through my nose for eight seconds, and out through my mouth for sixteen seconds. Repeat several times. Resolve not to care when people start looking at me funny.
3. Change my thoughts. "I'll show him!" becomes "What will best help me right now?" "He always does this to me," becomes "I'm the only one who can make a fool out of me." You got that right sister.
4. Try to think about how hurt someone could be by my words. Nothing’s worth causing unnecessary hurt to someone else – especially someone you care about.
Sorry Uncle George.
Sorry Joe.
1 comment:
Well, we all blow up at people from time to time and then feel really bad afterwards.
It is hard to stop and think for 10 seconds (which is what I try to do) before I say something that I may regret. In the event I don't get to 10 sec and blow up - the best I can do is apologize.
We all try to be the best we can be but remember - To err is to be human and accept all our follies!
Love,
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